I had an amazing, loving, Thanksgiving weekend with my three wonderful sons, two lovely daughters-in-law, and two grandsons. I have so much to be thankful for; this has been an amazing year, and I am very blessed. I love the male of our species; I gave birth to three of the most gentle, soulful, strong, REAL AWAKE, men, and I am so proud of each of them. When I count my blessings they are, the three of them, number ONE!
Yet, I have lived deep betrayal from men I loved deeply, and I am one of the “me tooers” who speaks out against those who would see women as objects, keep women in submission, keep us believing we are in some way inferior–who would never choose our leaders to be female.
So, when my lovely niece, Lisa Groenemann-Stellmaker, sent me a song performed by Sara Bareilles, with a note saying “I thought you might love this as much as I do,” I was blown away by Sara’s powerful words. In essence the song is asserting that we can thank our enemies, those who are against us, those who hurt and abuse us. We can thank them for our strength.
Here are some of the lyrics:
Step one: original sin….Step two: learning how to lie
Let me ask a question to this present day
How the hell did Eve end up with all the damn blame?
All the damn blame….
To all the dirty looks, the kitty cat calls
To all the ones who try and throw us up
Against the back walls
Let me tell you something you’ll understand
Only the little boys tell you they’re a big man.
All my, my, my, my armor comes from you.
You make me try, try, try, try harder
Oh, that’s all I ever do, ever do
Oh, no, no, no my, my, my, my armor comes from you
You make me stronger….
To all my sisters and all our friends, we have to thank them please
Strength means being blessed with an enemy…..
What you didn’t do to bury me
What you didn’t know, I was a God damn seed,
You don’t scare me, I am of the earth
So tired of your empire
BLIND men only set the world on fire
Sad you can’t see it
You brought the flame
Here comes the PHOENIX
You make me try harder, it‘s all I ever do, ever do
Oh, no, no, my, my, my, my armor comes from you
You make me stronger, stronger
Hand me my armor….
WOW! This really got me to thinking about how I have grown the most in Spirit and in strength through those painful experiences that might have put me down, broken me. The words of this song are so true in my own life. I know so many other women for whom this is also true. And it has been those strong women throughout history, who rose above adversity with a drive to stand for what they believed in, who brought us to where we stand today. I would take it even further: I believe those adversities were designed to do exactly that…..to make us stronger and to move us forward. As a result, we come to know ourselves. We come to know our personal power, and it is that POWER that is our Armor.
Some of these experiences had to do with men, yes, but I’m guessing whatever the adversity (betrayal, disillusionment, dysfunctional family, loss of health, failure of all kinds, you name it) it makes us stronger…..it builds our armor. And that armor doesn’t mean something to hide behind, but rather, such things as strength of character, integrity, determination, faith, and even unconditional love.
The Dali Lama once said, “The world will be saved by the Western woman.”
Perhaps what we are dealing with in this present day that seems to be questioning so much of what I thought we had gained and moved beyond (equal rights and mutual respect, right of choice concerning our bodies, etc.) is strengthening us so that we will indeed save the world.
Sisters, say “THANK YOU,” and take up your armor!!!
(Thank you, Renee Groenemann and friends, for the photo)